Before Dreaming

Connecting to those who have crossed over can seem difficult because of the longing in our hearts to be close to those who are gone again. That weighted emotion will be the biggest hurdle in your path. When that quality is softened, opening to spirit world can be like prayer. I always suggest those who are interested start by attempting visitation in dreaming, when our brains are open while our eyes are closed.

We are used to perceiving the shadows of night as other objects and entities. We soothe our minds with the self-told tales that these perceptions are simple imaginings. It’s because of this survival tactic that we accept the appearance of shifting forms more easily in the dark.

If you are longing to speak to someone who has crossed over, try this gentle ritual. Think of who you want to speak with and put a photo of them next to your bed, if you have one. If you have any items that belonged to them, or items they gave to you, put those beside your bed as well, as if you are creating an altar. Because you are creating an altar. Make the space sacred.

The best way to create meaningful rituals for yourself is to use exercises that are habitual for you and require little forethought. My most powerful dreaming ritual is the simplest. When you are ready to lie down, go to your front door, open it, and call out the name of your spirit. Invite them to come in. Invite them to visit with you. Take a deep, slow breath and then close the door.

Carry that air and the energy of that invocation and let it sweep you into bed. Focus on the items or photos next to you as your eyes grow heavy. Repeat their name in your head as you fall asleep and open yourself up to what is to come.

You may not remember your dreams at first. In the morning, pay attention to the quality of your heart. Pay attention to your waking thoughts and emotions. Don’t be afraid to speak to them out loud. Don’t be afraid to speak to the air. Wherever your loved one’s spirit resides, words are carried on the winds and will reach them.

Sweetest dreams, fellow travelers.